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The Masculine With Stefanos & Joshua
Why We Created This
Joshua and Stefanos met in 2018 while co-facilitating a men’s retreat, and an instant brotherhood was born. What began as deep mutual respect quickly evolved into a friendship rooted in shared values: growth, integrity, service, and devotion to conscious leadership.
With over 40 years of combined experience coaching high achievers, we are passionate about trauma healing, nervous system regulation, and helping individuals create aligned, purpose-driven relationships.
Our newest collaboration, Decode the Masculine, was born from a shared mission: to help you understand how healthy, integrated, initiated, emotionally available men think, feel, and love...so you can stop shrinking, performing or chasing love and start owning what you deserve, what you desire, and what it can feel like to be met.
If you are here, most likely you have been hurt or abandoned by unintegrated & uninitiated men in your past, and it's jaded your vision of the masculine. This has created an imprint in your nervous system and body that continues to repeat patterns of attracting and saying yes to the same types of men because this is your experience of what men are.
When you begin to surround yourself with healthy, integrated, initiated men, it shifts your entire experience of men. You begin to realize and feel the difference between the wounded masculine and the healthy integrated masculine. We also teach you how to tell the subtle differences that you can feel in your body.
When this happens you no longer need to repeat unhealthy relationships. You begin to own your value, trust your intuition, and break your old relationship blueprints. When you feel safe in your body, and you can begin to trust there are healthy men in the world, you flourish in all aspects of life... especially love.
A Bi-Weekly Dojo Just For You...
You’ve read the books, talked with your girlfriends, worked with female coaches.
But you still find yourself looping...
“Why did he pull away?”
“Was that a red flag or just my nervous system reacting?”
“How can I tell if he is being authentic?”
“How soon should I share certain details?”
“Am I asking for too much or not enough?”
“Was that a red flag or just my nervous system reacting?”
Most dating advice either teaches you how to play the game...
...or how to overthink or manipulate your way to clarity or results.
But clarity isn’t mental. It’s somatic.
And real understanding comes not from decoding men in theory, but hearing directly from men who’ve been in the work for decades & training other men to do the work.
Most women are trying to decode men based on secondhand information, contradictory advice, or viral soundbites that don’t reflect how emotionally mature men operate.
Inside this bi-weekly coaching space, you’ll begin to feel the difference between distorted masculinity and conscious masculine presence. You’ll learn how emotionally available men respond to truth, vulnerability, boundaries, and feminine radiance. We will also guide you deeper into your somatic felt sense so you can deepen your trust in your intuition.
You’ll bring the text message you don’t know how to respond to.
The moment you felt dropped after opening your heart.
A question around a potential red flag.
Or the question that’s been spinning in your head for days.
And you’ll get clarity from the masculine in real-time.
What Makes This Different…
You’re Not Just Getting Male Perspective... You’re Getting Embodied Insight
We are two integrated, emotionally available men who...
Have coached thousands of men and women through the exact issues you’re experiencing from the other side
Specializing in nervous system regulation, polarity, masculine feminine dynamics, trauma healing, inner child healing and relational repair
Understand both the psychology and physiology behind men’s behavior in dating, conflict, intimacy, and commitment
Are living this work daily in our relationships, our growth, and our mission to bridge the masculine-feminine divide.
Have both been doing deep work for decades & still continue to do the work. You will feel this in our communication, presence & attunement to you on the calls.
Community of women supporting each other in new and profound ways. This is a place where you can really be seen and supported with your experience.
This Space is For You If You’re:
Have questions about men, dating, or relationships and want your questions answered directly from the masculine
Tired of overanalyzing men and wish you could just ask, "What is he really thinking? or What does this mean?"
Want to a safe space to bounce things off of to give you clear, direct advice.
Dating consciously but still second-guessing whether a man is truly integrated or emotionally unavailable in disguise
Unsure when to lean in, lean back, or walk away and want feedback rooted in clarity and embodied leadership
Find yourself learning about men through viral posts and feminine perspectives but want to hear it straight from the masculine
Unsure if a dynamic you’re in is healthy or if you’re caught in a pattern of emotional unavailability, control, or manipulation
Want to know how healthy men handle conflict, boundaries, and emotional expression so you stop normalizing dysfunction
Left a toxic or confusing relationship but still feel bonded or unsure why it’s hard to fully let go
Afraid of repeating past patterns and want support from a man who sees and honors your growth
Ready to stop guessing, stop spinning, and start trusting yourself and the kind of love your feminine actually longs for
Inside This Space, You’ll Receive…
Clarity and confidence in your relational instincts, so you stop second-guessing yourself and start honoring what your body already knows
A deeper felt sense of what healthy, grounded masculine energy actually is, so you can finally recognize the difference between control and leadership, charm and integrity
Real-time insight into how integrated, emotionally available men think, love, and choose, so you stop dating potential and start attracting partners who are ready
Live coaching to break the old patterns, the ones rooted in survival, over-functioning, or self-abandonment and step into a new way of relating that honors your feminine truth
Nervous system regulation through masculine attunement, so you can rewire your relationship with safety, intimacy, and devotion at a body-based level
Practical tools for navigating real-world dating dynamics, whether you’re meeting someone new, feeling uncertain about a connection, or rebuilding self-trust after heartbreak
Embodied examples of healthy masculine love, so you no longer need to imagine what it might feel like… you’ll know
Inside This Space, You’ll Receive…
1. The Masculine Revealed: Understanding His Inner World
Decode men’s fears, desires, and emotional language.
Why men withdraw, shut down, or seem unavailable.
How to bridge the gap between his silence and your need for connection.
2. Healing the Father Wound
How your relationship with your father (present or absent) shapes your attraction to certain men.
Releasing patterns of over-responsibility and hyper-independence.
Building trust in masculine presence without losing yourself.
3. The Dance of Polarity
Feminine and masculine dynamics explained simply and practically.
How to embody your feminine without becoming “less powerful.”
Shifting from leading/controlling into receiving/allowing in love.
4. Trusting the Masculine, Trusting Yourself
Healing the fear of betrayal and disappointment.
How to lean back without collapsing boundaries.
Anchoring in your self-worth so you can risk deeper intimacy.
5. The Art of Surrender Without Losing Power
Understanding the difference between surrender and submission.
How to soften while remaining strong.
Creating relationships where your strength is honored and cherished.
6. Why Men Pull Away — and How to Respond
Demystifying men’s cycles of closeness and distance.
Nervous system differences between men and women.
How to stay grounded and connected when he retreats.
7. Attraction Alchemy: Magnetizing Healthy Masculine Men
Why high-powered women often attract weak or controlling men.
Subtle shifts in energy that draw in men of depth and integrity.
How to spot red flags early and set standards without fear.
8. Love Without Performance
Healing the part of you that feels you must “earn” love.
Releasing perfectionism and the pressure to be “enough.”
Cultivating intimacy where you are fully seen and celebrated.
10. Conflict and Communication Mastery
How to speak so men can actually hear you.
Turning arguments into intimacy-building moments.
Boundaries, requests, and agreements that strengthen love.
11. From Hyper-Independent to Deeply Supported
The hidden cost of “handling it all.”
Building partnership where you don’t have to carry everything.
Learning to receive — emotionally, financially, spiritually.
12. Sacred Union: Redefining Love and Partnership
What true partnership looks like in the modern world.
How to call forth a man’s leadership without diminishing your own.
Building a relationship that heals, inspires, and expands both souls.
TESTIMONIALS
What others are saying
"My Life Has Blossomed"
"Working with Stef was life changing for me. It allowed me to get off the emotional roller coaster and live from a peaceful baseline where I could shift things in my business & relationship." - Joy
"It Transformed Me "
"I was starting to lose hope that I could have a healthy relationship & had a mistrust of men. My life today is so different. I am dating from a much healthier embodied place & able to relax into my feminine and trust men now" - Heather
"Highly recommend it"
"Joshua has this rare ability to hold up a clean & clear mirror & has helped me so much. Joshua is the embodiment of an initiated, integrated, embodied healthy sacred divine masculine." - Noel
"Such a safe space "
"Josh has this exceptional way of making everyone feel really safe & really seen. Josh is going to take you from where you are at now to where you want to be. " - Sarah
The Offering..
Here's what you get:
Bi-Weekly live 2 hr zoom coaching calls with Joshua Wenner and/or Stefanos Sifandos
Calls are the 1st & 3rd Wednesday each month 2 - 4 pm CST.
First call starts Wednesday September 17th, 2-4 pm CST.
Laser coaching + direct masculine reflection on your questions
Weekly feminine integration prompts to shift your dating and relationship patterns from the inside out
Weekly embodiment practices to support integration and life's challenges
Private Skool community for connection, support, and real-time insight
Unlimited Q/A submission in the Skool community
Replays available if you can’t attend live
Bonus: Monthly nervous system regulation and somatic practices by Joshua and Stefanos
Bonus: Two videos a month where Joshua and Stefanos explore and answer directly questions submitted in the Skool community
Bonus: Access to special high value guests to help learn more about integrated men, women & relationships.
Normally: $197 month
Investment $111/mo
"Highly Recommend"
I had some clarity on where I was meant to go but was feeling extremely blocked in being ready to do it! I was getting many sessions with various healers that weren’t landing the way I hoped…but something finally clicked in my session with Joshua.
NAIA
Call Flow & Timing
1.Live Q&A Calls
Held 2nd & 4th Monday @ 4 - 6 PM CST
2.Submit
your question in advance or on the call
3.Receive Access
on Zoom + Telegram link upon joining
4.Cancel anytime
no long-term commitment required
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Meet Your Coaches
Meet Your Coaches
Stefanos Sifandos
A globally recognized mastercoach, trained educator and relationship expert with a background in behavioral science, trauma and somatics. Stefanos is passionate about leading people closer to their highest potential. He helps men and women escape negative patterns and cultivate a positive sense of self as well as restructuring and re-framing their relationships, the things that matter most to them, with themselves and their loved ones.
Joshua Wenner
A globally recognized master mastercoach, filmmaker, and nervous system expert with a background in behavioral science, grief, trauma, and somatics. Joshua helps men and women break free from unconscious patterns, heal core wounds, and build empowered, authentic relationships. His work integrates science and soul, guiding individuals to rewrite their relational blueprint and reconnect with their highest potential in love, intimacy, and within themselves
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The Masculine With Stefanos & Joshua